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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2019 8:51 am
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And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

The Fun Stuff - about me

On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

Toys r'us Request to see my toys__New toys

My kinks: My master list for BDSM 2018
Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
Sinday mornin __Seems I have __ confidence and attraction are they two different things
Photo time Male nude partial nude d15c
A post for some retrospect I suppose -- Trying to sleep -- Lustful thoughtsmind wanders at work

Virtual Symposium
1st time for the 12th VS International Intrigue -- 13th Virtual world and blogs -- 14th vs First dates
15th VS Black and White __ 16th vs Casual relationships __17th The First Time __18th VS Its a Secret&vs18its a secret__19thVS Its science time__20thVS My life as a __VS23 Dreams

Ponderings
Sexy saturdaypenis thoughts__ Adventures in dating land for tues__Mornin ladywood
Carpet service required__Sinday mornin well lunch time__Sex chat __Thirsty Thursday free time
world of words __ Logical right__Friday __ What kind of style
Strokin wat __Where o'where are you hiding


Just for daily FUN
Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
another chilly winter night j14n16 __ Sexy saturday night j3n16
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Mornings
Posted:Apr 23, 2019 5:04 pm
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2019 3:56 pm
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So lately I have been jilling off to thoughts of morning sex.
(I know kinky right πŸ™„)

Lets just say hookup guys are not into all night of sex nor morning sex unless it involved me driving to his house in the morning, fuckin, then leaving before coffee.
I am soo done with those bad attitude guys, so its been since 2013 for the last time I had some cozy cuddly morning sex. [But he was a casual partner not a hookup (though turns out was typical emotionally closed off mid 40 recently single , which created a new set of red flags to avoid).(just in case you ask why)]

But , being half asleep touching, caressing, then moving the hips with the clit vibe on... takes a bit longer than I aim for but probably because still half asleep and so is my bits. Lol.
[Side note: Remember I had to teach my body to orgasm in less than a minute just so I could cum at least once with the hookup guys. And now it is coming in handy.]

Now I see why many guys prefer to masturbate instead of meeting, you don't have to share the bed, you don't have to do sex just because the other wants it, you don't have some chick wanting more.

Rub rub Wahbam and all done!

My fantasies, at least, are not porn dependent for the most part, I typically only use my porn maybe once a week or so. Mostly when I require extra stimulation and visual effects.

And it's awesome that I can stay distracted enough not to masturbate every free moment I have or sneaking a quick one in when I can.
I do stop myself from squirty orgasms but also means theres a build up in the skenes gland and I sometimes end up with a stuck orgasm.
Thats when I ask to borrow the fingers from a past lover.

Anyhoo,
I do some times rub one out for bedtime.
But I no longer wake up in the middle of the night just to masturbate!
And that's a big step forward for me!

Anyway,

Its Tuesday, but feels like a Friday that wants to be a Monday.

Enjoy your day nonetheless.
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Post Sinday
Posted:Apr 22, 2019 7:27 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2019 3:11 pm
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Well it was a busy one here in the badlands, lots of yardwork and mending fences. I did manage to get one garden cultivated!

I quite enjoy living in the country but somedays I long for the laziness of the city life with nothing but yourself to look after.
Sure you can be 'busy' socializing, or going to the gym, or doing one load of laundry, but you are not going to be set back a week if it rains at the wrong time. And those chores will still be there if you decide to do something else instead.
One thing though is staying fit and active (I don't attribute skinny with fit), sure i may have racked the barbed wire over my hand yesterday but I got the fence done!

Although,

My greenie neighbors don't and haven't been spraying for mosquitoes for a few years now and its way out of control with the swarms of fun-suckers.
Hopefully now I'm back in the area we can start managing the mozzies so you can atleast go outside in the heat of the summer and not have to wear a hoodie!
Small things in life. Lol

Anyway, I stayed busy enough all wknd to not think about finding a new casual partner, I just jilled a few off and went on with my day. Some days its just too frustrating to think of how many hoops they make me jump thru just to get a bit of sex out of them, never mind stimulating conversation with dinner would be like pulling his teeth. Lol

There is a country fella I heard rumor may be single...finally, think I will track him down again as the last time we chatted 2 years ago he wasn't single.

Coffee is done, its a slow start for me this mornin, but sheepie bottles to make, pigs to feed, and then off to work.

Enjoy your day
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Fridays eve..
Posted:Apr 19, 2019 5:34 pm
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2019 9:37 am
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And twas the night before the wknd, when all thru the house not a collie was stirring, not even the fat cat.

The stockings where hiding in hopes that st nick would soon be there,
I was nestled all snug in my bed,
with visions of hot dates danced thru my head.

Sleepy n settled,
when the lights fashed on, a crash, and scritch,
I jumped from my bed, out the door, tits flashed loose in the moonlight!

Gawd darn you nick! Watch for the deer!

I grumbled and growled, bare legs flashing, rearranging my top.
I grabbed his bag of toys and hummed,
Now Diesel, now woody, now Stryker,
on Holmes, on Dean,
Buzz away, buzz away, cum.cum.cum.


Nick came with a bound, all dressed in his furs,
he should have said it was furry night!?
I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;

A wink of his eye and a twist of his head
Soon gave me the thought that I had nothing to dread;

He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work. 😍

Fingers quick n nimble unwrapped his gift,
With a flick of his finger the Os filled the night.


....
Or

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Time tested, tasted, rested, but true?
Posted:Apr 19, 2019 10:19 am
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2019 8:45 pm
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Its a rainy day off, and no I am not complaining about the rain because my pastures really need it.
But it's one of those days that you want to just chill n read a book or go outsideand do a yard cleanup. Lol so ya I'm going to finish watching forged in fire then go and load the truck for a dump run.

Anyhoo,
Messages, profiles, ads, men fishing in the dark but not getting lucky



Or are they?
I totally believe that they receive responses but it may not be from thier 1st to 10th pick. Lol. I should know first hand as I have responded to said ads, messages, profiles. (Yanno for science πŸ™„πŸ˜)

I can just imagine that many a female profile elaborates on things especially size and beauty, but I don't read thru female ads unless they are on the kink site and I'm curious about her age.

I'm not sure about American measurements and rulers, but some of ours must be mislabeled because that 8" sure looks like 6"
(And know your audience, someone like me notices the small details with a well practiced eye.. 🍌πŸ₯•πŸ†πŸ‘€)

Take me to heaven on that pony express!
Lol
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Summer
Posted:Apr 18, 2019 12:08 pm
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2019 9:51 am
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Is almost here



But that also means men won't be meeting until mid September again. Lol
This is going to an exceptionally long year, maybe because I am soooooo craving a good experience when it comes to meeting someone new and of course with sex.
Maybe its age and how it's going by faster n faster that these long periods of time just seem to take forever but at the same moment they fly by adding yet another year of no sex onto your age. Lol

Any way,
I'm horny again, but what else is new in the badlands.
I am still working hard at not going back to masturbation or porn, or searching the sites for the he'll do ... only to be in the same rut but with yet another bad "night" of what he calls sex. I'm just not up for that risk/reward, still.

Let's see
How many dates do you have lined up for the long weekend?
Are you that wknd warrior that hits up profiles around wed/thurs to line up the dates for that wknd?

Guys, How successful are those wknd hookups?
Ladies, Is the sex worth it?
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Humpday'ish guarantee
Posted:Apr 17, 2019 7:03 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2019 9:57 am
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Most definitely

Enjoy your midweek.
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Add a post on a Tuesday
Posted:Apr 16, 2019 11:38 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 1:45 pm
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Ha! Definitely some days...

Do you ever indulge in a fine dining experience at a good restaurant?
I take myself out for dinner every once in awhile between a pub night and a nice restaurant. (Yes I'm very comfortable in going out alone, gasp I know .)

Enjoy your week nonetheless,

I am going to plan a dinner for kinksters at a nice restaurant in the city...as usual its mainly women interested, nothing like dining with the competition.
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Monday mission impossible πŸ€”
Posted:Apr 15, 2019 6:01 pm
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2019 6:48 pm
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I follow Rain DeGrey on a blog site and the kink site, of course shes an attractive woman so she may not have full understanding about lack of partners. Lol. But I still enjoy the blog content.
Anyway, one of her blogs covered dating and being kinky, and the topic of "put yourself out there" came up. For which I covered already.

So curious if your standard dating pool is really small or does it have countless possibilities?
When you add anything extra on like swinging or preferring fmf/ffm is your dating pool still large?
What are you willing to give up just to find someone open to ongoing or gasp dating?

What is it like to have endless options available to you?


Living in the badlands with a great job, no mortgage, lots of space, but lack of men in the area.... makes miss flower wonder what it is like to constantly having your ego stroked by seeing a full inbox or lots of options.
(I have never had a full inbox even when I used to cam on here, so I really have no idea).
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Saturday night is alright
Posted:Apr 13, 2019 8:36 pm
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2019 8:05 am
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Its alright for lame jokes, and one of those out of things to about nights.



Sure could use a handyman and small engine mechanic ... well in more than one way as I could also use a hand or two if know what I mean
Including though...Fences, house stuff, solar dryer, irrigation pump, rototillar...


Enjoy your evening
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In agreement...
Posted:Apr 12, 2019 3:26 pm
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2019 1:10 pm
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With my heart rare is.


Even my heart rate agrees with what needs to happen for date nite. Lol

Well if I had a date, apparently the ex-casual is fishing on the coast for the wknd, so can't him .

Anyway,
The dating sites are pretty dry right now, seems most "interest" is from far away...like:
too friken far other side of the country wtf really are you serious

far away, where it turns into a drive thru or more like fly thru sex service "date".

Ah well, the ticks are still active, and the mosquitoes are hatching from the water very shortly so I wil enjoy one of the last mozzie free wknds!! Garden work, fixing fences, plus squish in dinner with my family.

Enjoy your weekend!!
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Sindays are good for thinkin
Posted:Apr 7, 2019 12:33 pm
Last Updated:Apr 9, 2019 7:16 pm
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So it's another Sinday in the badlands, the one where we wash our sins away.
Ok least wash the laundry and clean house. Lol.
(In the last years my pms can render almost bed bound (not in a good bound way, but just super anemic, lethargic, bleeding like a stuck kinda thing) So I didn't get my laundry done yesterday).

Anyhoo, it's also a good day to pack away thoughts, and to unpack some ideas just to see if they fit or just because its an interesting thought comparison.
Lately I have been doing more comparison reading between poly and mono relationships. Lets just be up front, I am not a typical 'poly' person that wants to build strong loving bonds with all partners because for one I have yet to see any real poly people develop strong relationships, they all just seem like fwb situationships. But and although, I have been in monogamous relationships with the 'right' men (bec many of them fail to understand what monogamy means) I rarely rush into any relationship now.

I am more of a mid range relationship fluid type. I can partner with the right people with relationships that work for us. Because of my location I tend to just go with more casual partners, as I am the one traveling to them. But that also means I rarely develop strong feelings for anyone. Such is life.

I know people gripe that I search for potential partners instead of rushing to meet with just anyone, but when you have been burned as many times as I have you learn to not be as open to meeting people. I used to enjoy meeting with most anyone because I like to listen to thier stories and to just learn about the others life. And it was fun, until one too many would pressure for sex or become stalkerish, or become really angry that I wouldn't put out just because he was interested in me.

If I could find that majic button to make casual sex appealing and mutually satisfying then I would be more into it as a single person. But right now the only casual sex that looks appealing is when I have the safety, security, and emotional stability of a bonded partner. As he will make up for all the emptiness of the hookup guys. (Think stag/vixen).
Confused yet? Lol

I do chuckle when I would put on my dating profile that I am looking for someone specific for a type of relationship, then I would have a bunch of the opposite types message saying "too bad". yet they become scarce at a later point when I decide to search for that 'opposite' type. (Remember when I posted about non-monogamy on here and all those mono guys popped out of the woodwork, yet when i post about monogamy most gripe about it). Lol

Kinda like when I change my dating profile to "seeking men 26-34 for casual partners and kinky fun" and a whooollllee bunch of men in my age bracket would be angry and spiteful filling my inbox with "why not me?" messages. I am guessing that I can't specifically search for someone is what they are griping about.... funny when I increased my upper age range from 34 to 54 and all of a sudden all those chest thumpers are quiet and nonresponsive once again.

Seems the most messages I received from men within ten years of my age are when I specifically posted for a younger kink /sex partner. Lol.
I used to roll my eyes so fuckin hard on the cougar site when those guys over 35 would message me even though my profile was very very clear on age.

Cant win either way.
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